Imagine your foot nervously tapping your desk in class as you await your test results. You anxiously countdown as your teacher moves slowly around the classroom as if she were in "The Matrix". You studied for the exam, however you were unsure about some of the material. The teacher finally approaches your desk, folds your paper, and places it face down. "Not the fold and flip'em trick!" you think to yourself. In a sense of nervousness, you flip over your paper with your eyes closed procced to open them and your mouth hits the floor. To your surprise not only did you pass the exam, you exceeded. As you take a closer look, you see a personalized note written by your teacher stating," Congratulations job well done you are on your way". In response, you stick out your chest, hold your head up high and proceed to give your neighbor a high five. You are walking on cloud nine throughout the day not only because of your level of success, but you feel a sense of 'value' because your teacher personally acknowledged your effort and success.
I observed this same feeling today during class as my student teacher Ms. L. discussed her rules, procedures, expectations, and reward system for the next six weeks. Students were extremely excited, eager, and very inquisitive. When students feel valued, they become open to learning. As educators we must continuously remember that we address the whole child each and every day. In addition, Tom Rath further emphasizes this notion in his book entitled
How Full is Your Bucket? Rath writes metaphorically to explain the Theory of the Dipper and the Bucket. Each of us has an invisible bucket. It is constantly emptied or filled depending on our interactions with others. When our bucket is full we feel great. When it's empty we feel awful. Not only is this concept important within the classroom, but also with colleagues, family members, friends, and strangers. Each day during every interaction, we make a choice regarding how we will use our dipper -- to encourage or discourage. In essence, to ensure success, one should always remember that relationships proceed learning.